I observe with keen interest as the vagrant scrutinizes the vendor’s wares with some disguised pseudo-interest, and I suppress an impulse to giggle when he innocently shakes his head, making a hand gesture that he has no buying power-at the moment.
While the nomadic street-paddler is a score feet away, as if in a casual afterthought, the “window-shopper” mouths a, “Don’t lose hope man, be patient and always stay positive!”
Well, on an ordinary day, to a casual observer, that would be some piece of pricey advice. However, if you come to think of it; who believes a man who seemingly has lost all hope to prosper, whose patience with poverty has made him to it what a hand is to a glove?
“Stay positive for what? Dude, positive my foot!” Now I hear you concurring with me.
Have you ever had someone attempt to comfort you with an, “it’s God’s will” mantra when you lost a beloved one? To make it worse, let it be someone who has never experienced some tragic loss in their entire life.
This world is always full of fundis in every area of life, but the question is what credence does one have to play tour-guide onto your life’s expeditions?
What do you think would be an insurance broker’s advice on the best way to look after your property than ask you to insure it? Would a doctor turn you away from his door after telling you all you need is a good meal of balanced nutrients? Would you trust a bachelor to give you marriage advice? Even a married man or woman does not qualify to give you marriage advice; for no two marriages are the same.
Do not even listen to the “I-have-been-through-this” hogwash. An observer once said that the so-called thirty years of experience is just one year’s experience repeated thirty times. At the same time no two experiences are ever identical.
You see, there is always a motive behind the advice offered. Some tend to benefit directly from your acting on their advice while others are just happy to know that there is a moron retracing their lousy footsteps. Worse, still, some derive some pleasure from when you stumble over their latent booby traps on the advised route.
This world is just full of the blind leading the blind or the cunning leading the ignorant and unsuspecting to the guillotine.
The best thing that you could do to help someone is let them be able to explore on their own. Sometimes failure and pain along the way are the best teachers than those who only serve to help you with the tactics of avoidance.
Personally, I believe the best way to advice me is show me how to keep an open mind so that I realize that I also have it within me to find my own way.
Other than that you would serve me better by shoving it!
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